How to not overload yourself

I have always wanted to be everything to everyone. In high school, I took on cheer captain and newspaper editor the same year I was in five AP classes and applied to colleges while trying to hang out with my friends before graduation.

It was hell. But I thought that’s how high school was supposed to feel.

So then in my undergrad years at college, I repeated my mistakes. At one point, I was elected an officer in my sorority, worked two on-campus jobs, took 18 credit hours of class, and eventually had a complete breakdown. I was surprised, but my friends and family were not. I realized that I’m doing both myself and others a disservice if I try to do everything.

It’s hard not to, though, when you’re like me and you feel like you’re disappointing someone if you’re not doing everything humanly possible. You have to remember, though: You can do anything, but not everything.

Be picky with your time and your talents.

Trust me, no one will be let down when you’re doing what you love and being realistic about what you can devote yourself to.

But how to choose?

Think about what you actually enjoy.

What makes you forget about everything else while you do it? What is on your mind all day?

For me, a few things stand out above the rest: Writing, reading, listening to music, dancing, and helping others. That last one is the toughest to sort out, because it means I raise my hand for just about anything someone needs, but look at it this way: You can help others with things that you enjoy helping with. I like helping my sorority with PR and dance choreography for talent competitions, because I enjoy PR and dance already on their own.

 

Check each box on your list, not all the boxes on everyone’s list.

Be a joiner, but be selective. Don’t just join everything to join everything– pick things with a purpose to you.

If you want to get more involved in campus clubs or other organizations and need help narrowing it down, pick up to four that accomplish the following categories:

  • Career/School: Something that benefits your academic success, like an honors fraternity, a club specific to your major (Psychology Club, for instance), or a professional organization
  • Service: Something that benefits others, such as Make-A-Wish or Alternative Spring Break
  • Fitness: An organization that promotes being active, such as a club soccer team or Zumba class
  • Fun: An organization that fits with one of your hobbies or passions, like photography club, Quidditch if that’s your thing.

Start with the essentials.

If you need to make money, make time for a job. If you need to get better grades, block out more time for studying. If you work full time and you want a promotion, stay focused to make it happen. Then, if you’re doing fine, start adding on.

Take stock of your goals and figure out what you need to reach them, and then you can zero in on what is actually important. It’s amazing how much better it feels to have three things on your plate instead of ten.

I know you want to get involved in everything, but if you spread yourself too thin and can’t dedicate 100% to each thing, there’s no point in doing it. I’ll say it again: You can do anything, but not everything. Find what you really want to do. Then go do it, and do it with all the energy you’ve got!

XO,

CC

 

 

Motivate yo self

You’ll figure out pretty fast that 90% of the people in this world do things because people tell them to. I made that statistic up, but I would bet that it’s close to the truth. Few of us actually care enough to tell ourselves what to do, and when we do, others think it’s weird. But whatever. Let your freak flag fly. Because when you’re able to tell yourself what to do instead of waiting for someone else to, that’s how you become the boss.

Easier said than done, though. Which is why not everyone can be a boss.

It’s all fine and good to say you’re a driven self-starter, but it’s another thing to actually be one.

It means not sleeping in until your first obligation (11 a.m. class) and getting your butt out of bed to work on a paper at 9. It means waiting to binge-watch Riverdale until a night you don’t have anything else you need to be doing. And it means learning how to manage yourself, because you are a human being and not a machine that can automatically sit and do stuff. Here’s how:

Get the crappy stuff out of the way before you do the fun stuff.

You might be super excited to write a blog post or do an interesting project or get started on a paper that actually sounds fun, but to really focus, you need to clear out the cobwebs. If you have boring things hanging around in the back of your mind, it makes it harder to really enjoy doing the other things. So just do all the things.

Treat yo self.

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If I have something to look forward to, it’s a lot easier to try to get things done. I’ll tell myself a goal– like, answer those emails you did not want to touch– and then once I get to that goal, I’m free to take the longest shower of my life and spend the rest of the night painting my nails, grabbing ice cream with BF, and/or watching the latest leaked Game of Thrones episode.

Don’t multitask.

I repeat: Do. Not. Multitask. Seriously.

I know you really, really want to multitask. Don’t do it.

They have done the studies and the facts are the facts: Multitasking does not help you. It only hurts you. It makes you so much less productive, because the time you spent shifting your attention to a new task is time you can spend on your current task. I know you think you can be a superhuman and those facts don’t apply to you, but you are a human being and you are just simply not built to do it. More on this later, because I can take a whole blog post just on this.

Alternatively, build out 20-30 minutes at a time just on one specific task. And if you’re feeling flow, just keep going.

Get out of your house.

I’m currently sitting outside the library, because on my way home I randomly saw an open table and decided to sit down instead. I have accomplished so much more in my hour outside than in five hours on my bed. Find your happy place for work– it shouldn’t be the same as your happy place for relaxation. I don’t care if it’s the library, Starbucks, or even your car dealership while you’re waiting for an oil change. I do that sometimes. Oil changes are some of my post productive hours. Go ahead and laugh. I’ll be sitting in a quiet lounge drinking free coffee at Toyota.

 

Practice yoga and exercise.

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If you’re just sitting like a bump on a log all day, you’re going to put yourself in a slump where you never reach the right state of mind to work. This shouldn’t be hard on yourself– if it’s too much of a pain to get to a gym during your working hours, set up a yoga mat by your desk and take 20 minutes to breathe and stretch. It will make a world of difference. I personally don’t know how to teach myself yoga, so don’t let that stop you. Go on YouTube and find a free class. I like this one for a quick detox.

Yoga not your style? It’s not always mine either. Take a short walk. Go to a spin class. Just do something active, even if it’s the last thing you think will help.

Get started.

Just start. Tell yourself you don’t even have to finish it. Because once you start on a task, even without the intention of spending a lot of time doing it, you’ll be surprised how much easier it is just to keep going and finish it. Starting is the hardest part, and it’s also the easiest, so do yourself a favor and trick yourself into doing it by starting it.


Anyone else have ideas for staying self-motivated? Anything weirder than going to a car dealership? Please spill.

XO,

CC

 

 

 

 

How to continue building your career at school

It can be frustrating spending the summer in the ~adult world~ at an internship, only to have to go back to school in the fall. I’ve spent the past three summers doing internships, and every time I went back to school, it felt like I was putting my life on hold instead of getting ahead. But this isn’t the right way to think (you are in school to get your degree and therefore get ahead, after all), and you can still take advantage of your time in school by developing new skills and gaining different experience.

Which sounds like bullshit, but I am not here to bullshit you. Some people spend college doing the minimum, which involves skipping lectures and selling your textbooks halfway through the semester to buy a burger (guilty as charged on the latter). You are going to spend it possibly doing those things, but also still growing on a personal and professional level. You can have it all. You can enjoy a burger bought using blood textbook money and simultaneously become extremely hireable.

Sound too hard? Here are a few different plans of action for continuing your career while still making it to class and slaying that degree:

Plan A: Continue your work for the company you interned at

If you have a strong desire to keep working your internship and think you can handle it (school is, like, hard sometimes), ask if there’s a way you can continue after class. If you’e in the area, you can offer to stay on part-time at the office, or you can help out remotely. I had one internship that let me extend my internship through fall and work virtually from school, since I didn’t have to physically be in the office to do my job effectively. It will depend on your industry, relationship with the company, and geographical/time constraints.

Pro tip: Give them a reason to let you stay on– pitch your contributions and show them that they still need you!

Plan B: Freelance for local businesses and nonprofits

If continuing the internship isn’t an option, you can also take on freelance work. Into music and event promotion? Offer to help out your local concert venue. Enjoy shopping and social media? Ask around at the fashion boutiques in your town to see what you can do for their Instagram. Do you already feel passionate about a nonprofit in your area, and think you can contribute your professional talents to their cause? Volunteer on a whole new level. My sorority works with the Alzheimer’s Association, for example, and I would love to do PR for them while I’m in grad school.

Plan C: Work on your resume and personal brand

This actually should’t be a Plan C; it should just always be an ongoing focus as you start out in your career. It takes serious time and energy to update your LinkedIn profile, re-design your resume, maintain a personal website and construct a portfolio. Or at least, if you’re doing all of these things right. In school, you’ll have more time on your hands than when you’re working a full time job, so take this as an opportunity to spend time on yourself.

Also, remember that you just finished your internship, so it’s important to update everything with that new position under your belt! Know it’s a pain. Just do it.

Plan D: Learn and develop new skills

At your internship, did you realize you could work on certain areas to make you stronger in that industry? Now is the time to work on those areas. I learned over one summer that Excel spreadsheets are a major part of entry-level work in PR (Surprise! Sometimes your dream job involves things you thought you were avoiding). So now I know to focus more on learning the ins and outs of Excel, and it’ll make me an even stronger candidate since many PR/journalism/communication majors don’t think to learn it. There are plenty of online resources for teaching yourself skills, and taking the time to develop those skills while everyone else was snoozing through class will set you apart.

2017-2018 is going to be an amazing school year, and you can make it an amazing professional year, too!

XO,

CC

 

 

Post-Lolla Playlist

Lollapalooza is my favorite weekend of the year. It’s like my birthday, spring break and Christmas all rolled into one. It’s the place I get to see all of my favorite (and next favorite) bands all at once, and for someone who loves alternative music as much as I do, this is heaven on earth.

For the past 3 years now, I’ve somehow managed to make it to Lolla, even when my summers are unpredictable and I have no idea where I’m going to be. This year, I didn’t even buy tickets until the week of (and on Thursday, I bought a Thursday pass the day of for $30), and got to go on Thursday, Saturday and Sunday. It’s 100% worth it to me. I strategize my entire schedule around which bands are playing at what times, and this often causes dilemmas (Arcade Fire vs. Justice), but if you do it right, you can see a solid 6 or 7 shows in one day. Now multiply that by 4….I’ll let you do the math, since I can’t do math.

And now it’s Monday, which means no more Lolla-land and back to reality. But that doesn’t mean the Lolla fun has to stop at work. Every year, I create a Post-Lolla Playlist compiling the best songs from the bands I saw, so I can re-live the memories of Cage the Elephant crowdsurfing from my desk at work.

In order of appearance as I saw them at Lollapalooza:

Day 1 (Thursday)

I hadn’t planned on Thursday since I knew I had to work, and it wasn’t worth going at 5 for a pass at full value. BUT my coworker wasn’t able to sell her pass, and I took it off her hands for $30. Super worth it. I sprinted from work to my apartment, underwent a transformation, and then showed up in time to see Cage the Elephant start their set.

Cage the Elephant, “Cold Cold Cold”

Cage the Elephant was incredible. They gave an energetic performance (which is crucial for an outdoor festival like Lolla), with the frontman running back and forth and even jumping into the crowd. I think they might’ve dropped him. Oh, well. This song was my favorite of the night.

Spoon, “Do I Have To Talk You Into It?”

I was literally walking by the stage without any clue that Spoon was performing on it, but I heard them playing this song and was like, wow, who is this? They sound awesome. Turns out it was Spoon, and while I’m obviously not a knowledgeable fan, I still really enjoyed their show.

Muse, “Dig Down”

GOD I LOVE MUSE. They were actually my first concert ever my sophomore year of high school, and even though I stopped listening to them as they came out with their newer albums, I was impressed with this new single that they opened with at Lolla. We watched them in the pouring rain, and they killed it for a few songs before the thunderstorm finally came and we had to evacuate the festival. I was beyond bummed, but grateful I got to see them perform at least a little bit.

Day 2 (Saturday…skipped Friday due to work)

Was super salty that I had to miss the Killers on Friday, but Saturday made up for it.

The Shelters, “Gold”

Possibly my favorite song of the weekend. The Shelters were a 12:45 p.m. show, a slot usually for smaller-up-and-coming acts, and I am always blown away every year by at least one band that I hadn’t heard of before. They had three guitarists and performed with the energy that I sometimes only see in those smaller bands.

Alvvays, “Archie, Marry Me”

Not my favorite, I’ll be honest, but my friend was a fan and no one else in the group had a preference on any of the shows playing at that time, so we went over to Alvvays. They were chill, and I liked their sound, but the vibe was probably too chill for me. I tend to like the head-bangers at festivals, but that’s just me.

Colony House, “You & I”

We got to the front row for this one, since they were playing at a puny stage. They were great. “You & I” is probably my favorite new song from the weekend. It’s just so swingy and beachy and dance-y. They also were one of those bands that sound the same live as they do in-studio. Normally I have a slight distaste for bands that sound too mainstream alternative, but Colony House was pretty decent.

Alison Wonderland, “I Want U”

That said, I was tired of the swingy, beachy alternative bands at this point, so we took a break and stopped by Perry’s (the notorious EDM stage frequented by the high school crowd). Unfortunately I could not tell you what exactly we were listening to. I can tell you that I’m pretty sure this song was something I heard. I think. I was kind of distracted by the flames shooting out of the stage.

The Head and the Heart, “Library Magic”

In the middle of the show, I turned to the group and was like, “I like these guys.” Which was surprising, because this isn’t a band I listen to. I’m just not a folk fan. But I was impressed by the artistry of each band member, since they played actual instruments like the piano and the violin. I guess it’s hard to follow Alison Wonderland with a violin, but they made it work, and I had an awesome time. We also made it onto the jumbotron.

Chance the Rapper, “Chain Smoker”

Ah, Chance. I saw him 5 years ago, when he performed at my college (I saw him for free, since I worked on the concert committee) on his Acid Rap tour. Then he blew up overnight, and I was seeing him performing on SNL. WTF. Seeing him in Chicago was a surreal experience, since Chicago is his hometown and the crowd was absolutely packed.  I chose “Chain Smoker” for this list because I got to see Chance perform it twice– first early in his career at an auditorium on a college campus, and then at the pinnacle of his career, with a field filled with passionate fans.

I have honestly never felt such unity in a crowd. Chance should probably start his own church. We all were just happy and having fun listening to great music. And that’s all you can ask for in a music festival.

Day 3 (Sunday)

I was exhausted at this point, but ready for one last round. I was most excited for this day of the three– if I hadn’t found passes for cheap, I would’ve splurged on just Sunday. The main dilemma of the day, of course, was Arcade Fire vs. Justice, since both played at the same time. Read on to find out what we chose…

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Whoops, we missed that one…

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Missed it.

The Shins, “Australia”

The Shins were alright. They made me happy. They were fun. I think I spent the show mostly dancing around and getting excited for Justice (or Arcade Fire?).

Grouplove, “Sabotage”

Grouplove was our most anticipated act of the day, and thankfully we made it to this one, because they did not disappoint. While I love their classics like “Colours” and “Tongue Tied,” what really won me over was their cover of The Beastie Boys’ “Sabotage.” I am a sucker for covers.

Justice, “Pleasure”

Justice was FIRE. I can’t even pick just one song because they blended everything so seamlessly and beautifully that it was like hearing everything for the first time. Which is hard for an electronic artist to do, since the songs are all produced electronically and basically sound the same live or not.

Arcade Fire, “Wake Up”

Surprise! We saw both Arcade Fire and Justice, since we couldn’t bring ourselves to choose. We tore ourselves away from Justice when Arcade Fire had 20 minutes left in their set, and made it back to see plenty of Arcade do their thing. Wake Up isn’t normally my favorite Arcade Fire song, but this was just absolutely perfect for a Lolla setting. The crowd went nuts. And it was such a bonus that we made it there after Justice.

 

A Dollop a day keeps the doctor away

A coffee a day keeps the doctor away…I mean, not really, but I like to let myself think that. Even after getting quite the caff boost yesterday at Goddess and the Baker, I was ready to try another dose of cold brew today.

Dollop Coffee is another coffee business that’s well known in the Chicago area. Since I only have two more weeks left living in Chicago, I’ve made it my mission to hit every Chicago coffee establishment there is in the general vicinity. Which means no Starbucks or Dunkin’ for the time being. That can wait until I’m back in Columbia, Missouri, where the coffee options are admittedly more limited.

But that will be a problem for Future Caffeinated Californian. Today I’m in Chicago, and today I get to go to Dollop!


Dollop has several locations in the Chicago area, but I went to the one in the Loop near my apartment. I was feeling a lazy Sunday coming on and knew I had to get coffee and get it fast.

I loved that the place was designed for busy commuters. There was an Express menu and separate window, and this pick-up station to skip the line (something that I don’t see often at indie coffee places). Today being Sunday, it wasn’t crowded, but I have a feeling I’d get the same quick service any day.

I didn’t stick around, since it’s my roommate’s last day in Chicago (wah) but the place had free wifi and lots of space for hanging out. I grabbed a cold brew to go and came back to my apartment to pair the bitter taste with Honey Nut Cheerios.

I’m a slight sugar addict in addition to the caffeine.

The cold brew was good, on par with any good coffee place. It was nice and strong, brewed from Metropolis beans.

Cold brew with a view!

I am going to miss this apartment.

Sorry for the short but sweet post– girl’s gotta run! Leave a comment if you’ve got any suggestions for my next coffee visit. Don’t forget, I plan to hit every possible place selling coffee for my last two weeks in Chicago.

Enjoy the rest of this lovely weekend, and stay caffeinated (hydrated, I think, is the correct word here, but caffeinated is so much more fun).

XO,

CC

Goddess and the Baker: A bolt from the blue

What to do on a Saturday when you have to be productive? Go to a fancy coffee shop and pretend you’re being productive. Honestly, good coffee makes me feel like slightly less bummed to be working on a weekend (it makes me feel slightly less bummed to be working on a weekday too, but whatever).

Living in the Loop in downtown Chicago this summer has been a blessing and a curse. A blessing, because I’m right smack in the middle of amazing bars and restaurants. A curse, because I’m right smack in the middle of amazing bars and restaurants without the budget to go to said bars and restaurants. I make it work, though, and a really damn good coffee is one way to get the experience.

The Goddess and the Baker had been on my to-do list for a while. I’d been eyeing it every day on my commute to and from work, and I decided today was the day to see what the hype was all about.

It’s actually a recent spinoff from the Goddess and the Grocer, a famous cafe in the Chicago area. The founder, Debra, creates incredibly cool menus, and she even caters backstage for big music names (Fleetwood Mac, Aerosmith, and Jay-Z are among her clientele). If it’s good enough for Jay-Z, it’s good enough for me.

For starters, inside it has this gorgeously Snapchattable neon sign that gives the ultimate pro tip:

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People were actually walking in, Snapchatting the sign, then walking out without even bothering to get a coffee. I mean, lame. At least listen to the sign and caffeinate while you’re there.

When I first walked in, I was surprised at how huge the menu actually was. The name “Goddess and the Baker” should’ve been a hint, but still– they do not joke around with the baked goods. Their case features macarons, rainbow cake, salted caramel tarts, and plenty of other things that I did not know existed. I felt very inexperienced in this area, and moved on from the bakery case to the coffee.

Beyond the bakery, they have a coffee menu with a range of Goddess specialties, including both hot and iced coffee. Given my weakness for iced coffee, I had to try their cold brew on Nitro tap– the Goddess Sweet Cream Cold Brew, which is nothing like the sweet cream cold brew at Starbucks (sorry Starbucks).

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They call it “shockingly good coffee” for a reason. It was like literally getting zapped. I almost want to come back at 6 a.m. on a weekday just to get zapped in the morning so I can zoom into work at 8 and have everything already done.

Plus the atmosphere is clearly better than a cube:

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Not a bad way to spend a Saturday, even while working. I might’ve even enjoyed myself. And that’s what good coffee is all about.

XO,

CC

Beer & Takeout Pairings

After a less-than-great morning, I decided to do something out of character and spend an entire day in bed watching Netflix.

I realize this is completely normal behavior for half the human race, but for me it usually makes me anxious and feels like I’ve lost a whole day. Nevertheless, when I decide to do something, I don’t do it halfway. Seven hours went to the entire first season of GLOW, which turned out to be fabulous (I’m into the 80’s), and another four went to re-watching the best episodes of Mad Men.

After a day of bingeing on both TV and takeout, I realized the day wasn’t completely lost– I’ve discovered a special talent for selecting takeout and beer that go well with each other and with unhealthy doses of television.

Panda Express + Sapporo

At first I wrote Budweiser, but that just seemed un-American considering it’s paired with Chinese takeout. Sapporo is the Japanese Budweiser anyways. Seems as close as I can get.

Pizza + Fat Tire

Disclaimer: Of all the suggested beer/takeout pairings, this is the only one that has made me eventually puke. I’m sure the pizza played a larger role than the Fat Tire. In any case, proceed with caution.

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Chipotle + Corona

You can at least try to feel like you’re eating Mexican food if you drink a Mexican beer with it. Bonus: Chipotle sells beer now.

Taco Bell + Modelo

Continuing on the theme of pairing Mexican(ish) takeout with Mexican beers, Corona is an excellent complement to your Chalupa. Truly fine dining here. I sincerely congratulate you if you’re actually eating Taco Bell with Corona.

Jimmy Johns + Natty Light

I can only assume that you’re eating Jimmy Johns because it’s 2 a.m., in which case you’re likely drinking the can of Natty Light you found in your purse.

Portillo’s + 312

Because pairing a Chicago hot dog with a Chicago beer is the only real option here.

Panera + Bud Light

If you’re going to attempt to eat healthy, you might as well do the same with your beer.

In-N-Out + Stone IPA

As a former southern Californian, I have it on good authority that In-N-Out goes well with any beer out there. However, if I must choose, it would have to be Stone, since a West Coast burger deserves a West Coast beer.

McDonald’s + Budweiser

Ah, there we go: the ultimate American meal.

If you need more wisdom on having a drink with your food, this article offers plenty of valuable insight.

In the meantime, stay tuned for my next post on beer and donut pairings!

XO,

CC