How to not overload yourself

I have always wanted to be everything to everyone. In high school, I took on cheer captain and newspaper editor the same year I was in five AP classes and applied to colleges while trying to hang out with my friends before graduation.

It was hell. But I thought that’s how high school was supposed to feel.

So then in my undergrad years at college, I repeated my mistakes. At one point, I was elected an officer in my sorority, worked two on-campus jobs, took 18 credit hours of class, and eventually had a complete breakdown. I was surprised, but my friends and family were not. I realized that I’m doing both myself and others a disservice if I try to do everything.

It’s hard not to, though, when you’re like me and you feel like you’re disappointing someone if you’re not doing everything humanly possible. You have to remember, though: You can do anything, but not everything.

Be picky with your time and your talents.

Trust me, no one will be let down when you’re doing what you love and being realistic about what you can devote yourself to.

But how to choose?

Think about what you actually enjoy.

What makes you forget about everything else while you do it? What is on your mind all day?

For me, a few things stand out above the rest: Writing, reading, listening to music, dancing, and helping others. That last one is the toughest to sort out, because it means I raise my hand for just about anything someone needs, but look at it this way: You can help others with things that you enjoy helping with. I like helping my sorority with PR and dance choreography for talent competitions, because I enjoy PR and dance already on their own.

 

Check each box on your list, not all the boxes on everyone’s list.

Be a joiner, but be selective. Don’t just join everything to join everything– pick things with a purpose to you.

If you want to get more involved in campus clubs or other organizations and need help narrowing it down, pick up to four that accomplish the following categories:

  • Career/School: Something that benefits your academic success, like an honors fraternity, a club specific to your major (Psychology Club, for instance), or a professional organization
  • Service: Something that benefits others, such as Make-A-Wish or Alternative Spring Break
  • Fitness: An organization that promotes being active, such as a club soccer team or Zumba class
  • Fun: An organization that fits with one of your hobbies or passions, like photography club, Quidditch if that’s your thing.

Start with the essentials.

If you need to make money, make time for a job. If you need to get better grades, block out more time for studying. If you work full time and you want a promotion, stay focused to make it happen. Then, if you’re doing fine, start adding on.

Take stock of your goals and figure out what you need to reach them, and then you can zero in on what is actually important. It’s amazing how much better it feels to have three things on your plate instead of ten.

I know you want to get involved in everything, but if you spread yourself too thin and can’t dedicate 100% to each thing, there’s no point in doing it. I’ll say it again: You can do anything, but not everything. Find what you really want to do. Then go do it, and do it with all the energy you’ve got!

XO,

CC

 

 

Starry Eyed: Eclipse-Inspired Beauty

As someone lucky enough to be in the path of totality for this year’s Solar Eclipse (score one for Missouri), I can say with full confidence that I have no idea what I’m about to witness. But it does say a lot about 2017 if the highlight of the year is the sun getting temporarily blocked out by the moon.

I can also say with full confidence that any celestial event is a good excuse for celestial beauty (and for listening to David Bowie). While the sun glows from behind the moon, your face can glow from behind the best highlighter, eye shadow and moisturizer a girl can find.

To celebrate the fact that my world will be plunged into total darkness for two minutes and thirty five seconds, I present my top solar eclipse-inspired beauty accessories, from head to toe: starryeyed

  1. Sequin Scrunchie: I absolutely love this oversized sequin scrunchie from Free People! No one does hair accessories like FP, and this one’s no exception. Your basic pony will shine bright in the starlight today or any other day!
  2. NYX Liquid Suede Cream Lipstick in Little Denim Dress: Okay, so I know it’s a little out there to wear bright blue lipstick, but hear me out. With the Mermaid trend and Unicorn trend taking over mainstream beauty and mainstream Starbucks drinks (I never did try the Unicorn Frappucino), blue lipstick will become the norm. So jump on this trend now in anticipation of my predicted Alien trend.
  3. OPI Nail Lacquer in By the Light of the Moon: I always loved a good glittery pedicure, in spite of my desire to be less basic. And this shade name is just too spot-on to not wear for an eclipse.
  4. Ulta Beauty Liquid Illuminator in Bright Lights: This is my favorite everyday highlighter, and when I want an extra oomph, I add extra glow.
  5. Anastasia Beverly Hills Glow Kit – Moonchild: The ultimate kit for even MORE glow. There can never be enough glow.
  6. Urban Decay Moondust Eye Shadow in Intergalactic: The Moondust shadows are a fan favorite, and it’s because they’re super pigmented and gorgeously colored. If you want a glitter smoky eye, this is your stuff. End of discussion.
  7. Anastasia Beverly Hills Metallic Luster Liner in Liquid Silver: You can’t forget a good metallic liner for this, even with solar eclipse glasses on. Anastasia Beverly Hills does it right.
  8. Algenist SPLASH Absolute Hydration Replenishing Sleeping Pack: I was always skeptical about overnight moisturizers since I have combination skin on the oily side. But I’ll try anything once, and a perk of working in PR is getting free samples. So I gave this sleeping pack a go, and I was amazed at how much it made my skin glowy and dewy the next morning. And no breakouts! I think it’s a general skincare rule to moisturize even with oily skin, because dry skin can cause more breakouts.

 

Last, but not least…

Of course, don’t forget your most important accessory: Grab a pair of solar eclipse glasses! Check that the vendor is on the approved list before buying. Please don’t burn your eyes out. And remember to protect your phone if you take pictures– the sun can burn your camera the same way it burns your eyes!

XO,

CC

Motivate yo self

You’ll figure out pretty fast that 90% of the people in this world do things because people tell them to. I made that statistic up, but I would bet that it’s close to the truth. Few of us actually care enough to tell ourselves what to do, and when we do, others think it’s weird. But whatever. Let your freak flag fly. Because when you’re able to tell yourself what to do instead of waiting for someone else to, that’s how you become the boss.

Easier said than done, though. Which is why not everyone can be a boss.

It’s all fine and good to say you’re a driven self-starter, but it’s another thing to actually be one.

It means not sleeping in until your first obligation (11 a.m. class) and getting your butt out of bed to work on a paper at 9. It means waiting to binge-watch Riverdale until a night you don’t have anything else you need to be doing. And it means learning how to manage yourself, because you are a human being and not a machine that can automatically sit and do stuff. Here’s how:

Get the crappy stuff out of the way before you do the fun stuff.

You might be super excited to write a blog post or do an interesting project or get started on a paper that actually sounds fun, but to really focus, you need to clear out the cobwebs. If you have boring things hanging around in the back of your mind, it makes it harder to really enjoy doing the other things. So just do all the things.

Treat yo self.

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If I have something to look forward to, it’s a lot easier to try to get things done. I’ll tell myself a goal– like, answer those emails you did not want to touch– and then once I get to that goal, I’m free to take the longest shower of my life and spend the rest of the night painting my nails, grabbing ice cream with BF, and/or watching the latest leaked Game of Thrones episode.

Don’t multitask.

I repeat: Do. Not. Multitask. Seriously.

I know you really, really want to multitask. Don’t do it.

They have done the studies and the facts are the facts: Multitasking does not help you. It only hurts you. It makes you so much less productive, because the time you spent shifting your attention to a new task is time you can spend on your current task. I know you think you can be a superhuman and those facts don’t apply to you, but you are a human being and you are just simply not built to do it. More on this later, because I can take a whole blog post just on this.

Alternatively, build out 20-30 minutes at a time just on one specific task. And if you’re feeling flow, just keep going.

Get out of your house.

I’m currently sitting outside the library, because on my way home I randomly saw an open table and decided to sit down instead. I have accomplished so much more in my hour outside than in five hours on my bed. Find your happy place for work– it shouldn’t be the same as your happy place for relaxation. I don’t care if it’s the library, Starbucks, or even your car dealership while you’re waiting for an oil change. I do that sometimes. Oil changes are some of my post productive hours. Go ahead and laugh. I’ll be sitting in a quiet lounge drinking free coffee at Toyota.

 

Practice yoga and exercise.

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If you’re just sitting like a bump on a log all day, you’re going to put yourself in a slump where you never reach the right state of mind to work. This shouldn’t be hard on yourself– if it’s too much of a pain to get to a gym during your working hours, set up a yoga mat by your desk and take 20 minutes to breathe and stretch. It will make a world of difference. I personally don’t know how to teach myself yoga, so don’t let that stop you. Go on YouTube and find a free class. I like this one for a quick detox.

Yoga not your style? It’s not always mine either. Take a short walk. Go to a spin class. Just do something active, even if it’s the last thing you think will help.

Get started.

Just start. Tell yourself you don’t even have to finish it. Because once you start on a task, even without the intention of spending a lot of time doing it, you’ll be surprised how much easier it is just to keep going and finish it. Starting is the hardest part, and it’s also the easiest, so do yourself a favor and trick yourself into doing it by starting it.


Anyone else have ideas for staying self-motivated? Anything weirder than going to a car dealership? Please spill.

XO,

CC

 

 

 

 

How I Became a Morning Person

Most articles will tell you that one of the most common habits of CEOs and successful people is that they start their day early. What the article doesn’t tell you is that successful people pretty much have no choice.

Or rather, they did have a choice at some point– back when they were an intern, maybe, and they could either go the extra mile or not.

I have this theory that being good at your job is not as much about talent as it is about time management. And mornings are the ultimate time for time management. It sucks at first, but getting up just an hour earlier puts an extra hour of time back in your day. It’s like a freebie.

No one is bugging you.

The time from around 5-8a.m. is all yours. You can do whatever you need to do– work out, grab coffee, get a project done, or God forbid, eat a healthy breakfast for once. All without a single text or email.

Mornings don’t sound all that bad when I put it that way, do they?

But it’s not easy getting yourself in the habit, which is why not everyone does mornings. Everyone can do mornings, though. It just takes a few tricks.

Turn down the AC.

When you wake up and it’s freezing outside your bed, that does not make you want to get out of bed.

Turn up the coffee.

I mean, you probably knew this tip was coming. You can’t exactly wake up and smell the coffee unless there’s like, actually coffee. Coffee is a morning drink (for most people that aren’t me and only drink coffee once a day) for a reason- it motivates you to get your butt out of bed and at least a few steps into your kitchen. Or Starbucks. Whatever it takes.

Make it easier on yourself to get ready.

Figure out your outfit the night before. If you’re going to the gym, set out your clothes and shoes in advance. It sounds dumb, but

Eat a good breakfast (or at least a passable one).

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Were those stock photos enough for you?

No?

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Still not convinced?

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Aha. Thought so.

One of the perks of perking up in the early AM is having time to get yourself a decent breakfast. Food is an excellent motivator for just about anything.

Go to bed early.

I am a bit hypocritical in this advice. Sleep is not my strong suit. But it’s super important to get yourself in bed at least by 11 to be able to wake up early. Common sense, yeah, but suddenly it’s 2 a.m. and you have no idea why you’re still up writing a blog post. Whoops.

Lose the alarm.

Seriously, it sucks. Use a song instead. A song you like but are okay with not liking, since you’ll hear the sound of an alarm every time you hear it. I used to use “Amber” by 311, but it was so relaxing I sometimes slept through it. So. Don’t do that.

Make it a habit.

Once you’re consistent, your body will get adjusted to the rhythm and it’ll be second nature to be one step ahead of the world. Grab yourself a coffee for being so damn on top of it.

Does anyone else have pointers for becoming a morning person?

XO,

CC

 

 

Goddess and the Baker: A bolt from the blue

What to do on a Saturday when you have to be productive? Go to a fancy coffee shop and pretend you’re being productive. Honestly, good coffee makes me feel like slightly less bummed to be working on a weekend (it makes me feel slightly less bummed to be working on a weekday too, but whatever).

Living in the Loop in downtown Chicago this summer has been a blessing and a curse. A blessing, because I’m right smack in the middle of amazing bars and restaurants. A curse, because I’m right smack in the middle of amazing bars and restaurants without the budget to go to said bars and restaurants. I make it work, though, and a really damn good coffee is one way to get the experience.

The Goddess and the Baker had been on my to-do list for a while. I’d been eyeing it every day on my commute to and from work, and I decided today was the day to see what the hype was all about.

It’s actually a recent spinoff from the Goddess and the Grocer, a famous cafe in the Chicago area. The founder, Debra, creates incredibly cool menus, and she even caters backstage for big music names (Fleetwood Mac, Aerosmith, and Jay-Z are among her clientele). If it’s good enough for Jay-Z, it’s good enough for me.

For starters, inside it has this gorgeously Snapchattable neon sign that gives the ultimate pro tip:

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People were actually walking in, Snapchatting the sign, then walking out without even bothering to get a coffee. I mean, lame. At least listen to the sign and caffeinate while you’re there.

When I first walked in, I was surprised at how huge the menu actually was. The name “Goddess and the Baker” should’ve been a hint, but still– they do not joke around with the baked goods. Their case features macarons, rainbow cake, salted caramel tarts, and plenty of other things that I did not know existed. I felt very inexperienced in this area, and moved on from the bakery case to the coffee.

Beyond the bakery, they have a coffee menu with a range of Goddess specialties, including both hot and iced coffee. Given my weakness for iced coffee, I had to try their cold brew on Nitro tap– the Goddess Sweet Cream Cold Brew, which is nothing like the sweet cream cold brew at Starbucks (sorry Starbucks).

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They call it “shockingly good coffee” for a reason. It was like literally getting zapped. I almost want to come back at 6 a.m. on a weekday just to get zapped in the morning so I can zoom into work at 8 and have everything already done.

Plus the atmosphere is clearly better than a cube:

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Not a bad way to spend a Saturday, even while working. I might’ve even enjoyed myself. And that’s what good coffee is all about.

XO,

CC

Beauty in Transit

Lately I’ve found myself on a train with a bare face and 30 minutes to kill before I have to arrive somewhere and look like I didn’t just run out of my apartment.

Except I’m always racing against time, and when you have 5 minutes to hop on the Metra, mascara isn’t as important as making it there. The good news? My makeup bag is always with me, with beauty tools made for moments of panic.

Here are some pointers for beauty on the go, whether it be trains, planes or automobiles:

Foundation

Hopefully you got this on before you left the house– this one is most important to do under good lighting– but if not, no worries. Just make extra sure you’re blending with the right brushes.

Start with a primer that has SPF (ALWAYS SPF) and then use a BB cream that gives you nice coverage without being super heavy. When you’re applying quickly, you can’t afford to do heavy.

Be sure to use a brush that gets the job done in quick, broad strokes. I use the e.l.f flawless face brush.

Cheeks

A duo palette is the call here. I like the NYX Cheek Contour Duo Palette. If you can go pricier, Clinique and Tarte have great options. Right now I use Clinique bronzer, and apply it with the e.l.f fan brush.

Bonus points: Finish it off with highlighter to look like you really have it together.

And with that, you’ve gotten your base done. On to the hard part!

Eyes

If you’re a travel pro, you have the travel size Urban Decay Primer Potion.

It’s so itty bitty! Look at it next to my mascara!

Next, use a palette with your essential neutral shades. I usually have the original Urban Decay Naked or the Naked Smoky palette with me, but it’s not ideal since it takes up more space. Try a mini palette with the best of the basics. You can always darken it depending on where you’re going. A couple suggestions:

As for eyeliner: Beware of bumps, and choose an eyeliner that won’t smudge if you do hit something. The Maybelline Eyestudio Lasting Drama Waterproof Gel Pencil is a good smudge-proof option.

Mascara

When you need to swipe it on quickly, it’s important to have a mascara that will still achieve the same volume without being clumpy. I use the Clinique Travel Size Chubby Lash Fattening Mascara or the classic Maybelline Falsies to get the voluminous effect in seconds.

Lastly: Lips & Nails

When it comes to shaky transportation, you want to avoid neon-bright lip colors and lipsticks that are unforgiving with mess-ups. Opt for a neutral or light pink color in either a lip gloss or lip crayon, which won’t need as much precision and still looks great. The e.l.f. Lip Kiss Balm  is swell.

If you have time, paint your nails with another light, forgiving color. Then grab a magazine and your headphones to sit back and relax, knowing you just pulled off a polished look in the middle of rush hour. Not bad at all.

XO,

CC

 

 

 

Ballin’ on a budget: 10 actual fun things to do under $10

Part of working as an intern or entry-level employee is the less-than-ideal pay. We’ll all got to start somewhere, and most of us start on a limited budget. This is even trickier when you’re a 22-year-old surrounded by people with limitless energy and seemingly limitless bank accounts. It’s hard to be budget-conscious when everyone else wants drinks after work every day, dinners out every night, and plenty of shopping trips and coffee runs in between.

This summer, I’ve felt especially strapped for cash, as I complete an internship while living in downtown Chicago. As anyone will tell you, cities are expensive, and going out in Chicago for just one meal can mean $20-30 gone. 


The city is pretty but not cheap.

So my friends and I started getting creative with our weekend activities. Here’s 10:

1. Rent bikes


Chicago has an amazing bike rental system called Divvy bikes, and I know other cities have similar systems. Basically you pay ten bucks for a code, which you use to unlock a bike from any Divvy bike rack (there are Divvy racks everywhere). The code is good for 24 hours, which means you can bike around as much as you want- as long as you don’t have one bike out for more than 30 minutes at a time. If you’re active and you want to see your city in new ways, this one’s for you.

2. Visit Chinatown or Little Italy


On the other hand, if you mainly want cheap food and fun gift shops, Chinatown is for you. Little Italy is another great spot for great food amd a mini cultural adventure. The last time I went to Chinatown, I pigged out on dim sum, duck, and Chinese donuts. 

Caffeinated tip: Be sure to grab a cup of bubble tea while you’re there. It’s not coffee, but it’s the most fun you’ll ever have drinking tea.

3. Have a pizza picnic.


No matter where you go, you can always bring pizza with you. Order a box of ‘za, find a park/beach around you, and have a lovely date night outside with the love of your life: deep-dish sausage and pepperoni.

4. Ice cream in a new neighborhood 


Literally get on a train and go somewhere you haven’t been yet (I chose Wicker Park in Chicago), then make it your mission to locate THE best ice cream place (I chose Jeni’s). Alternative: The best taco place. Equally acceptable and potentially dangerous if they offer tequila shots.

5. Cheap (or free!) outdoor concert


Another benefit to cities: Concerts. I’m not talking music festivals, I’m talking those outdoor shindigs with families and lawn chairs. They’re actually fun. Bring beer and blankets, and you’ve got yourself a pretty decent happy hour.

I’ve seen Weezer and Passion Pit both for $20, and plenty of other shows for absolutely zilch. Check your fairgrounds and sports arenas– one time I stumbled on the Grateful Dead playing at Wrigley field.

6. Take a day trip to a brewery and take advantage of the free tour.

The MillerCoors tour in Milwaukee? Free. The three beers I got at the end? Priceless.

Even if you don’t drink beer, brewery tours are fun and you feel like you’ve learned something without being in a museum. The beer does not hurt either, though…

7. Shop the sale section of Forever 21.


Truly takes you forever. But it’s worth it when you find a killer romper for $2.99. And you’ve gotten the experience of a shopping trip without actually spending a fortune on two tops.

Alternatively, visit Goodwill or another thrift shop. There’s good stuff there for the taking if you’re willing to put in the time and effort. 

8. Go to a museum on a free day (or show a student ID if you can)


Most museums offer free days for residents and student discounts (even the Louvre). Check their websites and call around, then mark the calendar!
9. Rally the troops for bar trivia night.


Usually free, with great food and drink specials. If your friends are cool enough to not worry about looking cool, you’ll have a blast inventing an absurd team name and arguing over the answers to obscure 80’s song titles.

10. Stay in and have a Harry Potter marathon.
Arguably the best option of the ten. 

Im the end, even though they’re expensive, cities make up for it with all the free events and locations. You just have to know where to look!

XO,

CC