Welcome to my Boldly Brilliant series of blog posts, where I talk about all things smart and slightly nerdy. Caffeinated Californian is all about embracing both beauty and brains, so I created Boldly Brilliant to… More
I am such a sucker for pretty packaging, and it’s even better when the products inside are just as shiny.
As the Olympics came to a close, I wanted to do a roundup of my favorite rose gold makeup products, because owning the Lorac PRO Metal Rose Gold palette is basically the same thing as winning a gold medal in my mind. After all, you can’t wear a gold medal on your face, but you can come close with the right gold eyeshadow and contour palettes.
To get that golden glow on your face that Olympic athletes have when they stand on the podium, these are some of my favorite products. You can live your Olympic moment every day by going for gold in the makeup you wear.
So here’s my latest Fave Five roundup, featuring the shiny gold products that rock my world.
Lorac PRO Metal Rose Gold Palette: This was a limited-edition eyeshadow palette that’s hard to find now, but it’s so worth the hunt. It’s shiny, tiny, and perfect. The palette has eight brilliant metallic shades that are somehow both neutral and stunning, so I have it stashed in my purse now at all times for both day and night. Okay, speech over, get your butt on Ebay.
Urban Decay Heavy Metal Glitter Eyeliner in Grind: If you’ve read my Fave Five posts, you’ll know I love this eyeliner more than life itself. That said, this pink color is a new one that I’ve tried and it’s amazingly unexpected.
Mario Badescu Facial Spray with Aloe, Herb and Rosewater: For dewy, glowy skin, this spray is everything. EVERYTHING. I give myself a spray for hydration in the morning and at night, or use it as a setting spray. I’ll spritz some on if I need a boost throughout the day, too. It’s relaxing, smells amazing, and makes your face light up. And it’s $7.
Koko Kollection Face Palette: This has nice shimmering soft gold and satin bronze colors that you can use as highlighter, bronzer and blush. It’s super blendable and gives you a subtle glow (well, as subtle as a Kardashian face palette can be).
NYX Cosmic Metals Lip Cream in Metropolitan Night: This metallic champagne gold shade is a serious statement, but if you like a bold lip, this one’s for you.
Bringing home the gold has never been so easy!
What do ballet and boxing have in common? They both keep you on your toes.
I wanted to do a post about my workouts, and it occurred to me that my workouts are kind of not normal. I do about three hours of ballet a week– honest to God ballet, with pirouettes and all– and two hours of boxing and turbo kick, with a few classes in power yoga, pilates or Insanity to even it out.
But it’s pretty darn perfect, and I’m going to tell you why.
It started with my New Year’s Resolution to work out more. Basic AF but necessary. As a former competitive dancer and cheerleader, I used to be super tough and toned, but now my college years have started catching up to me. I was starting to feel blah this year. Like, panting after walking up stairs blah. And while I normally love my body shape, I was not feeling myself. There’s a difference between self love and body positivity, and realizing your abs got lost somewhere between your first and last frat party over the past four years.
So I finally got into that “I need to make a change” mindset that most people get in January. But I’m stubborn and I was determined to stay in that mindset through February, March, April, May, June and happily ever after.
So I gave myself a concrete goal (I respond well to concrete goals) and said that I would work out five times a week.
And while it’s only February, I feel like I’ve finally turned into one of those Gym People. I’m like that Workout Person Friend who gets other people to come work out. I’m actually a good influence for once. Other than my transformation into a Morning Person, this was probably the most shocking lifestyle change I’ve ever made.
Here’s the deal, though. You can’t just tell yourself to work out five times a week and then automatically be like, Oh, yeah, now that you say so, I’ll totally go work out five times a week. There are a lot of tricks to keeping your mindset.
10 Commandments for Becoming a Workout Person
- Thou shalt not make excuses. This is a common truism of those gym inspiration Instagram posts: No excuses. It’s a truism because it’s TRUE. If you keep telling yourself you have homework or a dinner or you’re tired, it’s the same as telling yourself that your fitness is not a priority. Treat your workouts like you would important dates. Because this is a date with your HEALTH and that’s more important than anything else.
- Pick forms of exercise that you actually like. Just because you see someone else on a treadmill doesn’t mean you have to run on a treadmill. Running on a treadmill makes me personally want to cry within five minutes.
- Use the power of peer pressure. If you go to a Pilates class every week where the instructor is awesome and knows you, you’ll feel more guilty missing that class. If you bring friends to your workouts, you’re less likely to bail. And if you verbally tell someone you are going to the gym, you will feel more obligated to actually go to the gym.
- Do workouts that show results. I started boxing because I can see the physical results of my body getting stronger and more powerful. And also because Adriana Lima does boxing. The first week I started, I was hitting like a total wimp (not hitting like a girl. I don’t know where that expression came from. Girls hit HARD. And they can kick harder). Now, I can punch and kick that punching bag across the room. The feeling of making progress is so satisfying that you will be motivated to keep going to your workouts each time.
- Switch up your routine. If you stop showing up to work out, you might be getting bored. This is why I do a lot of different workouts: HIIT, yoga, Pilates, Insanity, ballet, boxing, all that fun stuff. It’s good to have your core workouts, but sometimes it’s good to throw in a fun new thing.
- Block out time in your calendar. I have my schedule set up so that I’m going to the same classes each week, so that my friends and coworkers know that I do not joke around with going to ballet every Thursday. If you don’t do workouts in a class setting– maybe you run or you practice yoga at home– you should still be doing your workouts in the same times consistently each week.
- If you absolutely must miss a workout, make it up another day. I usually do yoga every Thursday, but things come up, and if I truly have to go to an important meeting or travel, I add another workout in on a different day. Again: No excuses!
- Thou shalt invest in cute workout clothes. This is a serious one. I love Victoria Sport and of course Lululemon, but most stores carry cute fitness clothes since athleisure is a thing and it is beautiful. If you spend money on a cute bra and gym bag and yoga mat, you’re more likely to use it. Same goes for buying a gym membership or paying for classes!
- Reward thyself. You are doing something good for your body and you deserve to feel good about it. Don’t be afraid to grab ice cream once a week each time you meet your goal. Honestly what’s the point of working out if you’re going to deprive yourself too? Just don’t overdo it on the syrup.
- Love thyself. Remember that your fitness goals are all about you and loving you. The more you work out and fulfill your goals, the better you will feel. In the words of Elle Woods:
Enjoy your endorphins! Have you discovered any secrets to sticking to your workout goals?
Welcome to Part 2 of my internship series! In this series of blog posts, I give advice on the internship search (a lot of which can also be applied to the entry level job search)! I’ve scored my share of life-changing internships, so I’m super excited to pass on what I’ve learned to all of you.
You know how people always go, “Oh, she looked good on paper, but she wasn’t great in person,” or “He wasn’t impressive on paper, but he’s really awesome when you meet him!”?
We’re going to work on getting you to be fantastic both on paper and in person. But first things first: Paper. Because usually before you wow them in the interview, you have to wow them on paper. Starting with a necessary evil: The resume.
The Caffeinated Resume
How does one caffeinate their resume? Two things:
- Clean design
- Compelling, specific job descriptions
That’s it. Easier said than done, though.
A well-designed resume doesn’t mean an over-the-top resume. The best resumes are often the simplest, and you don’t need to be a graphic design whiz to make sure your resume looks pretty and polished. Here are my best pointers:
- Choose one or two design elements that stand out. Do you want your name to be in a unique, handwritten cursive font? Do you have a cool logo? Are you all about the borders? Pick a couple distinctive aspects, and make the rest as simple as possible. If you’ve already developed a personal brand, this is a good place to incorporate any colors and designs that speak to your brand.
- Use a simple body font that’s easy to read on all computers and mobile devices: Like Arial, Calibri, Cambria, Didot, Garamond, Georgia and Helvetica.
- If you don’t feel comfy in Photoshop or InDesign, use Canva or a similar (free!) online design program that makes graphic design easy for normal people. Canva used to be my best-kept secret for looking like a design wizard.
- Use an understated palette with one bold accent color. Mine is white, gray and black, but I use pink for a few of the design elements as an accent. I love pink, but I don’t want to overwhelm the people looking at my experience.
- Put the most important information at the top. Your name, website, and most relevant experience should all be at the tippy-top.
- Ditch the objective section. Your resume is about what you are doing for the company, not what the company can do for your personal goals.
- Pretty paper is a plus. We know that resumes should always be printed on nice, heavy paper, but depending on your field, you might want to take it a step up. My resume is a watercolor design, so I print it on watercolor paper!
- Focus on your achievements. Sometimes if you go too crazy with the design, you take away from what the hiring manager should really be looking at, which is your amazing experience! Keep the spotlight on your words and keep the design simple.
Let’s talk about highlighting some of those achievements next!
Compelling job descriptions
- Keywords, keywords, keywords. They’re like the hashtags on an Instagram post: If you don’t use them, people won’t find you. Same goes for a resume. If you don’t use words in your resume that match the words in the job posting, the hiring managers might not even see your resume. It’s no secret that lot of those online systems will sort through resumes based on whether they match the keywords in the job description, but a lot of people still have no idea that this is a thing. Unfortunately, it is a thing, so play the game and put in those keywords!
For example: If the job description says “Event planning experience a plus,” you can write in one of your bullet points, “Planned events, including blah blah blah.” Better yet, you can include “Event planning” in the Skills section.
- Use action words: I know you know this one, but I’m saying it anyways. “Organized. Managed. Coordinated. Maintained. Led. Created.” You get the gist.
- Give examples: Be specific in what you did. Sticking with the event planning example: When you say “Planned events,” you can be more specific by saying, “Planned events with increased attendance and fundraising efforts, including the 5K for the Cure that had a record 17,000 attendees.”
- Humble brag: The resume is the place to do it. You have no doubt done something great, so stand up and shout it from the rooftops (in the most objective way possible). Numbers are the best way to do this, like “Increased participation by 70%” or in my own PR case, “Secured a placement in Blah Blah Magazine, resulting in over One Gajillion impressions.”
There you have it- my favorite pointers for creating a beautiful resume. There are so many different directions to take your personal style, but don’t forget to let your experience shine! Sound off in the comments if you have your own tips and tricks. Best of luck when you send that baby out!!
Welcome to Part 1 of my internship series! In this series of blog posts, I give advice on the internship search (a lot of which can also be applied to the entry level job search)! I’ve scored my share of life-changing internships, so I’m super excited to pass on what I’ve learned to all of you.
Once January hits, it’s go time for internship application season. A few applications might have already opened, especially in the accounting/finance sector, but most companies across industries don’t start the hiring process until late winter/spring. So you’re here at the right time! Welcome, you ambitious badass, you.
Okay, so let’s dive right in. First things first– you need to find internships to apply to in the first place, right? For many, this is the hard part, because it can be time-consuming to find openings. But don’t worry, I gotchu. Here are some of my favorite tricks for starting the search:
Create a spreadsheet.
This is your home base for all things internship search. On a Google sheet or Excel– whichever scares you less– make an Internship Search 2018 sheet, with columns for the following categories:
- company name
- internship title
- a link to the application
- materials needed (does it ask for recommendation letters? does it have a weird essay or project to test your skills?)
- extra details (anything interesting about the company or connections you have)
- status (here is where you’ll fill in whether you’ve applied, gotten a response back, etc.).
Once you have a place to list all the applications and openings you find, it’s time to go find them!
Narrow down your criteria for a good fit.
Do you need to be in a specific location, or are you open to a number of cities? Does it need to be paid? What kind of company are you looking for– a big advertising agency? A small local business? These will all be important to keep in mind as you start searching.
Let the Googling begin.
Start with the basic job sites, but that’s only the tip of the iceberg. Glassdoor, LinkedIn, Indeed and Monster are all fine and good, but not every company will post their openings there (especially internships). So in many cases, you’ll need to go directly through the company website, which means you should be googling the companies themselves.
When I was looking for PR internships my junior year of college, I knew I wanted to work in fashion, beauty or lifestyle, so I specifically searched for Free People, Nordstrom, etc. Some of these seemed way beyond my reach, but you never know what will happen: Nordstrom reached out to me for interviews, and I ended up making it to the final round even though I was just a junior.
Once you start finding openings, you’ll put them into your handy dandy spreadsheet that you created earlier. Woohoo!
As you keep going, you’ll see new opportunities pop up. Internships are constantly being posted, so you pretty much never run out of things to apply to. It’s also a good idea to set up notifications for new job postings on apps like LinkedIn Jobs and Glassdoor, so that you receive constant updates on what’s opening up.
Network. Network network network.
I know. It’s a necessary evil. But you know what? Sometimes it’s exactly what needs to happen for your dreams to fall in to place. It’s not as scary as people make it sound, especially now that we have LinkedIn. So start reaching out to professors that might have industry connections. Go to career fairs (they’re fun! I swear!) and find out what companies look for. Use your school alumni network. Talk up the guy at the bar who just happened to intern in your dream industry last summer. Yes, even parties are the perfect place to network. See? Not scary. Fun. I can tell you’re not convinced. But trust me.
There are so many networking opportunities that you wouldn’t have even thought about before. Go get ’em, tiger.
Question Time (things you might be wondering at this point)
Q: How many internships should be on my list?
A: Don’t stop ’til you get enough! You should always be adding to the list, right up to when you get that offer letter from your dream job. But if you want a solid number, the reality is that you should be applying to around 30 jobs. I am not joking around.
Q: Are you trying to kill me?
A: Maybe. But okay, you can make this so much more manageable than you think. Break down your list into 7-10 “priority” applications to focus on at a time, based on their deadline/urgency, and how much you want it. Then knock out one or two apps a day. See? Not so bad.
Q: What if my dream company doesn’t have an internship program?
A: List them anyways, and see if you can still intern there by reaching out directly and offering your services. This is where the cold email comes in: You find the right person to contact, figure out what their needs are, and send them an email describing who you are and how you can contribute to filling those needs with your skills. Kinda like a cover letter, but shorter and in email form. You got this.
And FYI, cold emails are often a great idea even when you apply through a formal application system. We’ll cover that next in Part II: The Cover Letter and Resume. Stay tuned!
How are you feeling? Overwhelmed? Excited? Internship/job apps can be stressful, but I’m super hopeful that I can help. The search is on!!
It’s that time of year when I regret my decision to go to a college in the Midwest! But only a little bit. The Midwest is awesome. I just miss being able to walk outside without crying.
There is one positive to negative degree temperatures, though: Beauty. When it comes to cold weather, the beauty industry has you covered. Dry skin? There’s a product for that. Dry hair? There’s a product for that. Dry hands? A million, gazillion, bajillion products that will make you wish for cold weather just so you have an excuse to put on lotion.
So I decided to have my weekly Spa Night with more emphasis on moisturizing everything. But moisturization isn’t just for a spa night: It’s something you should be doing pretty much all day. Which sounds like a drag, but if you get the right products, it’s amazing. Here are my favorites in each category!
And P.S., you get the best results when you combine these products with drinking a ton of water. I mean a TON. Like be a camel.
Okay, here we go:
Favorite Moisturizing Products
Hand cream: Victoria’s Secret PINK
When the weather gets cold, my hands are the first to go. Once everything starts to crack, I know it’s time to get it together and start using hand cream. I have three of these Victoria’s Secret hand creams and I keep one on hand at all times– it’s easy to stash in my backpack, purse, nightstand, wherever. They’re gorgeous, they smell gorgeous, they’ll make your hands gorgeous. Or at least, less like you’ve just punched something.
Hair mask: Living Proof Restore Mask Treatment
This. This is THE best hair mask I have ever found, and I’ve used it for the past two years. If it weren’t for this magical tub of happiness, my hair would be sad and limp and dry all winter. What makes it so special, you ask? If you use it once a week, it makes an actual difference in moisturizing and strengthening your hair. But the real selling point for me is that it still repels dirt, making it easier for me to go between washes. Hallelujah.
Moisturizer: Clinique Moisture Surge Extended Thirst Relief
My skin is oily, but it also gets angry and even more oily when the cold dries it out. So I keep my skin happy by moisturizing with an oil-free moisturizer twice a day, at morning and at night. I love Clinique products because I trust the brand and the products on my crazy sensitive face, and the Moisture Surge is luxe AF. It’s more expensive, yes, but it’s something I use twice a day, and nothing makes my skin glow more. If you’re still on the fence, try the travel size for a lot less, and I promise you’ll feel the difference.
Tinted lip balm: Burt’s Bees Tinted Lip Balm
Chapstick is boring. Burt’s Bees Tinted Lip Balm is not. I’ve been on the hunt for a good lip balm for a while, since my lips are constantly chapped, but it’s tough to find a lip color that looks good and stays on but doesn’t dry you out. Enter Burt’s Bees, champion of all lip balms. They have a tinted lip balm that you’ll actually want to wear year-round, not just when it’s cold. It comes in different everyday colors, and it’s sheer, so you don’t feel like you’re caking your face with the stuff. Plus, you’ll look like a goddess that thrives in cold temperatures when inside you’re really just ready for a day above 20 degrees.
Body butter: Bliss Lemon + Sage Body Butter
You really can’t beat the classics like body butter. They’re classic for a reason. And Bliss does body butter best. The Lemon + Sage is my all-time favorite, and I’ve made it a habit to put it on every night after I shower. And then I put on my bathrobe and watch Netflix, and I don’t know if there is a time in the day that I feel more stoked on how I’m running my life. Anyways. Buy the body butter. Live your best life.
How do you stay hydrated and moisturized when it gets unbearably cold? I hope my suggestions helped! ‘Til next time, goddesses.
Welcome to Part 1 of my blog post series on finding simplicity! In my mission to start simplifying my life, in everything from my career to my wardrobe, I’m writing a new post each week on how I’ve started keeping it simple. This first week might be the hardest: Simplifying my closet.
Less is more. Less is more. Repeat this to yourself, and you just might be able to get through the emotional experience of purging your closet.
Well, it kind of worked for me, anyways. Which was nothing short of miraculous, considering the circumstances: I’m a total pack rat with too much sentimental attachment to my clothes. But this was precisely the reason that I wanted to start with cutting down on my closet. That, and also the basic fact that I’m just literally tired of having all this stuff. There is such a thing as too much stuff, and if you’re feeling what I’m feeling, I think you’re ready for a good old wardrobe overhaul.
We’re going to be shooting for what some call the Capsule Wardrobe. Various lifestyle bloggers have managed to cut their closets down to 40, even twelve pieces. A capsule wardrobe is basically a closet with your favorite versatile pieces that you mix and match. Sounds easy enough, right? Except not, because it totally sucks getting rid of clothes.
Or does it?
Here are the benefits of reducing your wardrobe:
- You use less time choosing what to wear and more time on things that matter, like actually spending time with your friends instead of being late because you couldn’t decide on a damn outfit
- It gets easier to define your style and what’s important
- You can invest in quality pieces that you absolutely love
- Selling or donating clothes you don’t need is awesome for you, the community, and the environment. Everyone wins.
Okayy, so that’s all fine and good, but what about the actual hard part of reducing your wardrobe? Here’s where I step in with my real experience and real advice on making those tough cuts.
Creating your capsule wardrobe
Step 1: Grab a laundry basket and start filling it with the first round of cuts.
These will be the easy things to get rid of: Tops that are out of style, old t-shirts, underwear you never wear, sweaters that you like in theory but actually hate.
Step 2: Count the number of items you have in your closet. Then decide on a goal.
My number was unspeakably high when I started this experiment, and decided I’d try to get it down to 50. That was ambitious of me, but you have to shoot for the moon, right?
They say the magic number is 37, but I currently go to college in Missouri and that number just is not fair with the number of coats and jackets I need. So I made a compromise and decided that coats don’t count, since this is really about my outfits and not what I’m throwing on over them. Choose whatever goal works best for you, but remember: Less is more. Less is more. Rinse. Repeat.
Step 3: Choose wisely.
Here comes the hard part. This time, start with the things you love: Your absolute favorites that you are obsessed with and would grab in a fire (note: do not grab clothes in a fire). These should be a combination of versatile, tried-and-true basics that you can always count on (your favorite jeans, a plain white tee, the LBD) and the more fun, fancy pieces you can’t live without. My list looked a little like this:
- Black leather jacket
- DKNY Denim jacket
- My favorite flannel
- Plain black Topshop t-shirt
- Blush & black lace camisoles
- Black dress
- Dark skinny jeans
- Distressed jeans
- Cable-knit sweater
- Fur vest
- Vintage pink bomber jacket
- Urban Outfitters jumpsuit
- Striped culotte Loft pants
- Graphic concert tees
- Floral kimono
- Metallic workout jacket (Victoria Sport, my latest obsession)
- My entire cardigan collection
You’ll be surprised at how fast you decide what your favorite things are and what you can live without.
Once you’ve zeroed in on what you are obsessed with, it’s time to tackle the things you’re less obsessed with.
Step 4: Make the deeper cuts.
Alright, we’ve had our fun pretending this whole minimalism thing will be a breeze. But then we look at that old Charlotte Russe top and think, “But what’s the harm in keeping this crop top?” I hear you. I am with you. I, too, think it is unjust to ditch the going-out tops. But going-out tops are trendy, and you can always invest in two trendier tops to replace the five you threw out.
Are you keeping that cashmere sweater because it was expensive and you keep telling yourself you like it but you haven’t worn it once in the past three years? Pitch it. Do you still have that dress from high school that you share fond memories with, but you don’t seem to be making more memories with it? Time to let someone else love it.
BTW, the more you get rid of/sell, the more money and space you have for sushi. Just saying.
Keep cutting down. Figure out what’s most versatile, that you wear most often without thinking about it. Think about the classics versus the so-yesterday-trends. And remember: LESS. IS. MORE.
Step 5: Enjoy your newfound freedom.
Even if your experiment seems like a complete failure and you’ve only managed to get rid of three things, I consider this blog post a success because I got you to reduce your wardrobe! Well, you got yourself to. I just gave you the moral support.
For more expertise on building a capsule wardrobe, Unfancy has the ultimate guide with beautiful resources and pictures.
Have you ever tried to create a capsule wardrobe, or make your closet more minimalist? Let me know how your experiments turn out!
Coffee is a magical thing, but it’s easy to forget that we love coffee for the coffee, not for all the other stuff we put in it. With drinks coming out like the Unicorn Frappucino, we lose track of what made us fall in love with coffee in the first place, and start racking up a scary 600 calories per drink. I’m not normally one to count carbs, but I have to draw the line somewhere, and it starts to get problematic when half my dietary intake for the day comes from a Starbucks order.
As some of you may know from my Instagram, I often drink my coffee black. This is partly because I don’t always have it together and I run out of milk and creamer. But I also just learned to like coffee better without all the sugar. This has not always been the case for a massive sweet tooth like me. I used to be the biggest Frappucino fan on the planet. There was one point in my life that I got my caramel Frap once a day. I’d grab my grande Frappucino with caramel drizzle on top and head to class, feeling happy and caffeinated and just way too sugar-loaded. It had to stop. So I eventually switched to a vanilla latte, and then a skinny vanilla latte, and finally mostly iced coffee.
I picked up a few tips along the way:
- Hold the whipped cream
- Order it nonfat
- Ask for sugar-free syrup
- Use skim milk or almond milk (you can also do soy milk but I personally can’t stand soy in much of anything)
- Order the “skinny” version (e.g., a grande skinny vanille latte at Starbucks)
- Order the smallest size
General rule of thumb: Remember that the more flavoring and dairy you put in, the more calories build up. Keep it simple!
Okay, it’s time to give you what you came for. So without further ado, here’s how to keep it 100 (and under) in your favorite coffee orders. Please note that these are all approximations!
10 coffees under 100 calories
- Regular brewed coffee: 0 calories (boring but effective)
- Americano with cream: 20 calories (10 calories without cream…I find that Americanos don’t normally need much cream)
- Iced coffee with nonfat milk: 20 calories (60 with classic syrup flavoring)
- Nonfat cappuccino: 60 calories
- Flat white (a shot of espresso with steamed milk) using skim milk: 70 calories
- Iced macchiato (a shot of coffee with milk) using skim milk: 70 calories
- Skinny vanilla latte: 100 calories
- Cold brew with cream:100 calories
- Tall Caramel Frappucino Light:100 calories
- Skinny caramel macchiato: 105 calories (technically over 100 but WHATEVER it’s fantastic and deserves to be on this list)
Have you discovered any coffee orders that taste amazing without robbing your calorie intake for the day? Please spill the beans!
2018 is coming. Are you ready for it?
I know I am. After what might have been the hardest year of my life, I am so ready for a new start. The funny thing is, 2018 isn’t a new start. It’s just a new number that I have to remember to write when I write the date. But it somehow represents a new chance to change something about your life for the better.
Not that we need an excuse to do that, but New Year’s gives us an excuse to do that with style. It’s not every night you can celebrate life changes with champagne. Or maybe it is. Shoot. I’ve been doing it wrong.
But anyways. My point: New Year’s is a perfect time to think about having a more positive attitude.
How do you know when you need an attitude adjustment? Is it when you wake up and realize you can’t remember the last time you woke up excited for the day? Is it when you break down into tears from one small setback (which may or may not include broken escalators)? Or is it when you just have this general feeling that you’re just not giving enough, to your job, to your friends, to the world, to your life?
Maybe you feel this. Or maybe you don’t, and you just want more ways to feel positive. Whatever your situation, I’ve been there, and I know the power of positive thinking sounds cheesy, but hear me out: It’s legit. Your mind is a powerful thing, and once you believe in that power, you can honestly do whatever the hell you want. This includes eating ice cream for breakfast, and having a positive attitude. Both very important priorities.
And as usual, I’ve got the details…
What you should be doing this year to keep a positive attitude
- My analytical-brain twist on the whole “count your blessings” game: Whenever something happens that puts you in a bad mood or bums you out in any way, big or small, write it down. Whenever something good happens, write that down too in a separate list. Compare the lists. Did that many bad things actually happen, or does the good outweigh the bad? Were all the bad things that big of a deal?
- When a challenge or crisis comes up (you mess up at work, you have a big presentation coming up and your team isn’t working well together, your boyfriend is talking to that girl you hate, you drop your pizza…okay, some bad examples in there but these things tend to throw us off), allow yourself to have a private mini freak-out session. This can be as simple as screaming for ten seconds into a pillow. Let it all out. Cry if you need to. But then you’re done. Panic time is over. And then you can focus on solving the problem.
- Speaking of problems, there is a solution for all of them. Believe this. Make it your mantra. If you buy into the prophecy that there is a solution, you’ll be a lot more likely to fulfill your own prophecy and actually find the solution.
- Figure out what helps you feel invincible. It can be clothing (I have this gorgeous floral print Free People kimono that for some reason gives me all the confidence in the world when I wear it), a song, a workout, a perfume, a photo, anything. It can be a combination of all of the above. And then keep those things close. I love the scent of rose, and I love skincare, so I keep a rose water face spray at my desk for a quick spritz whenever I need to feel refreshed and powerful. Sounds a little crazy but it works!
- Heed the wisdom of Legally Blonde: Endorphins make you happy. I’ll let you finish the rest of that line, but the point is, get the endorphins going by exercising frequently. If you feel your mood dipping, take a 5-minute walk and see how you feel after. My guess is you’ll feel magical compared to your mood before.
- Create a “smile file,” or a list of all the good things people have said to you. I have a folder with emails from my supervisors whenever they tell me I did a great job on something, and I look back at it any time I need a boost.
- Surround yourself with as much positive energy as possible. This especially means keeping positive people close and cutting negative people out. If some toxic friend is bringing down your mood with constant complaints and anxiety-inducing behavior, distance yourself ASAP because you do not need that around. Even the most optimistic among us can get dragged down by pessimistic people if they let it happen.
- Focus on a positive vision: It’s like they say with practicing a sport or doing well on a test. If you even just imagine yourself performing the perfect pirouette in the ballet performance, you’re already setting yourself up to do the real thing. Focus on believing in your ability to do what you need to do. Envisioning success and happiness will help you make it happen. Because self-fulfilling prophecies are a real thing and the power is all yours.
What you think, you become.
What you feel, you attract.
What you imagine, you create.
– Buddha (but also Pinterest)
Happy New Year and thanks for reading! I have a lot of things to be positive about, including this blog and all of my readers. I can’t wait to see what the positive energy brings this year. Cheers!
New Year’s Resolutions basically never work. But when they do, it’s because we actually took real steps to change our mindsets. And the hardest part is figuring out how to take those steps. How will we work out more? How will we actually follow through with our grand plan to learn how to play the guitar?
In my experience, I’ve figured out that I need to set goals that are measurable and concrete. This goes for anything, from writing a paper for school or doing a project at work. I hate the term “SMART goals,” which appears in all my business management classes, but the management experts have a point: SMART goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely, which make them a hell of a lot easier to take on. Which is what needs to happen with New Year’s Resolution goals. For instance: Instead of “I need to work out more,” start with, “I will go to the gym four times a week for at least 30 minutes at a time.” Get it?
Using the logic of SMART goals and general human nature, I figured out how we can actually follow through with the resolutions we make. This post will tackle the most common New Year’s Resolutions, one by one.
Time to get resolving!
The resolution: Be more organized.
The strategy: “Be more organized” isn’t a very clear goal, so let’s tweak it: “Make 5 changes that take real action toward better organization habits.” Or whatever it is you want to do. These changes can be blocking out time each day for cleaning your workspace, or meal prepping before the week starts.
Blocking out time for cleaning was a good example. I’ll start with that.
I hate cleaning. I do. I feel like it’s a waste of my time when I could be doing something useful and creative like doing research for my thesis, or blogging. Like right now. I’m literally writing this post right now because I don’t want to put my laundry in the closet.
But decluttering IRL needs to happen if you want to declutter your mind and your work. You might not think you’re doing it, but you’re worrying about the clutter. In the back of your brain, in your subconscious, you are bothered by the papers piling up on your desk or the dishes piling up in the sink. So do yourself a favor and dedicate time, even just ten minutes, each day for decluttering.
Invest in the perfect planner. Not a good-enough planner, THE PERFECT planner.
Find a daily planner that works well for you. I cannot stress this enough. I found myself making disorganized lists for different things, from planning my groceries to figuring out my long-term project deadlines, and it’s easy to lose track and drop the ball on at least one of those lists. I created the below customizable planner to put everything I needed in one place:
Of course, you can always just go with a planner you buy at the store. And don’t skimp: This is something you will use every day, and it should have everything you want. Like a good boyfriend.
The resolution: Work out more.
The strategy: Invest both time and money in the gym and start in baby steps. Again, you’ll want to clearly define the goal: Is it to spend 30 minutes at the gym, four times a week? Is it to attend pilates class twice a week and turbo kickboxing three times? Depending on what kind of workouts you need amd enjoy, set a goal that seems both doable and challenging, with workouts that fit what you’ll realistically follow through with.
Remember that planner we talked about in the first resolution? Use it to schedule your workouts, and defend those workouts that same way you defend your time for work meetings. That way you won’t be tempted to cancel for things that come up.
Finally, put some money into it. Buy a membership. Get some fun new workout clothes, water bottles, and a gym bag. If you paid for the Zumba classes, you’ll feel more obligated to show up.
Be social. Once you keep showing up, you’ll make friends and want to show up! See if you can find a workout buddy, like a friend who already works out and could convince you to get your butt out of bed.
And once you become a regular, you might even be that workout buddy for someone else!
The resolution: Learn a new skill
The strategy: Like I said in my previous post about productive things to do over the holidays, the holiday season is a good time to start a new skill or hobby that you’ve been wanting to pick up. But we pick it up, and then we go back to our real life, and we drop it. Because when our working lives take over, hobbies suddenly seem a lot less important.
The key here is to treat it like it’s as important as working out or getting food. Because it is. You’re not a robot programmed to spend every waking hour on work or food (unless food is your hobby and you’re trying to figure out how to cook like the Pioneer Woman. In that case, I applaud you). You should be dedicating time to your own interests, and take them seriously– don’t just shrug off your desire to learn knitting or baking or yoga or coding as some stupid thing. Be nice to it. Respect it. Give it time. Let it become a part of your routine. Block off time and defend it, and you’ll find yourself practicing your new skill so much that it will naturally become a part of your life.
The resolution: Do more for charity.
The strategy: Of all the common resolutions, this one is my favorite, and also the one that gets dropped the most. When people are in the holiday spirit, they feel inspired to give, and then the inspiration fades when the Christmas lights come down. If you genuinely want to make a resolution to contribute more, here is what you need to do:
- Pick a cause that you can relate with, whether it be the arts, the food bank, homeless shelters, a health-related nonprofit like the local Alzheimer’s Association office, a domestic violence shelter, a church, whatever you feel most connected with. If you choose a cause you care about, it will be rewarding and you’ll be more likely to dedicate your efforts.
- Make a SMART goal related to that cause: “I will spend two hours every Sunday volunteering at the food bank.” “I will dedicate a half hour a week toward mentoring young women in a mentorship program.” “I will donate X amount of dollars each month from my paycheck toward the Breast Cancer Research Foundation.”
- Do some research and find local organizations/branches supporting that cause, and see what ways there are to contribute that use your unique skills and passions. I do PR, so I look out for pro bono PR opportunities– for example, when I was an active member of my sorority, I used my social media skills to help my chapter fundraise for the Walk to End Alzheimer’s. If you enjoy leadership, maybe there are leadership opportunities in your area. See what I’m getting at?
In my opinion, sticking with this one won’t be hard if you start connecting with the cause and regularly contributing. Volunteer work gives you a sense of purpose that work/school can’t always give you, and for those of you thinking about this resolution, I hope I’ve made a good case!
What New Year’s Resolutions are you making this year? Are they any of the popular ones above? Or are they more personalized? Sound off in the comments if you have any of your own advice or questions on being resolute!
Okay, so a break is a break…but at some point you can’t help but open up your laptop again. Resist the urge to do actual work!! Instead, take the time to learn a new skill or develop your side passion. Sometimes, the best recharge comes from personal development. That sounded super lame, but whatever. It’s straight truth.
Here are some ideas to get you started!
1. Sign up for new blogs, newsletters, and podcasts.
It’s important to stay updated on industry trends, current events, expert advice, and inspirational stories. I subscribe to about ten different newsletters, which are a combination of daily news updates, inspiration, career advice, and creative boosts.
A few places to start:
From there, you can find more outlets specific to your industry! I follow PR Couture, a fashion PR blog, for updates on best practices and industry trends that are specific to my own career.
2. Learn basic coding.
Enter General Assembly Dash. This website offers free basic coding lessons, with fun projects that you’ll actually want to use, like a blog theme and a website. If it sounds intimidating, it’s because it is– coding was a scary, scary concept to me– but the website makes it super approachable and easy to follow.
3. Read a classic novel you’ve been meaning to read.
Ever tell yourself you’re really going to try knitting a scarf in time for Christmas, or that you’re definitely going to read The Great Gatsby instead of just watching the movie and pretending you’ve read it? And then you just never get around to it? Understandable during the busy work weeks. But no excuses now- you’ve got nothing but time, especially with all the plane flights and car rides of holiday travel. Do yourself a solid and read up!
4. Try a DIY project, be it a recipe, beauty hack or fashion trend.
All those projects you’ve been wanting to try but never had the time for? Now’s the time. Distress some jeans. Make your own homemade body scrub (like this coffee scrub that I recently tried!). Attempt one of those recipes you’ve seen on a Facebook video loop. Craft a letter board from a Pinterest tutorial.
5. Work on building your personal brand: Your website, portfolio, LinkedIn, blog, social media, any and all of the above.
Your personal brand is always a work in progress, but it won’t develop unless you put some thought into it. It’s easy to let your LinkedIn profile take the back burner when you’re not actively searching for a new job, but you never know when you will be, or when someone might approach you first!
I created a personal branding checklist that you can print out, to help you stay focused and get that shiz done.
6. Write letters. Not emails.
I love a good old-fashioned handwritten note, and these days, there’s nothing like getting an actual card and not an e-card. Plus it’s fun buying pretty paper from a pretty paper store. Don’t judge me. Just get yourself some nice stationery like the grown person you are, and write letters to people that you care about. It will make their week.
Pro tip: If you don’t already write handwritten thank-you notes after job interviews, you’re doing it wrong. Send the email only as a backup for the real deal!
7. Get the ball rolling on a new sport or hobby.
Always wanted to try kickboxing or knitting? Now your whole schedule is open. Once you get in the habit of a new sport or hobby, it will be something you can continue even when you get back to the regular routine. I started boxing over Thanksgiving break, and kept it up in classes twice a week at my campus rec center when I returned to school. Pro tip: Don’t let going back to work give you an excuse for stopping a hobby. It’s not hard to block off a couple hours a week for something that energizes you!
8. Go to the museum or zoo for some cultural experience.
The whole family can even come along: Go visit the new polar bear or the Monet exhibit. Museums and other cultural destinations are some of the best places to clear your head and feel inspired. Many creative and business-minded people get their best ideas from wandering around an art gallery or a theme park. It takes you out of your usual mindset, and gives you new ways of looking at the world. Plus it’s entertaining and just plain fun.
9. Clean out your closet.
Once winter rolls around, you start to figure out which sweaters you actually wear and which ones you can chuck. I like to sell my clothes at local vintage stores, and use the money to update my wardrobe for the spring. When I can’t sell, I donate. It’s great for your closet and for the environment, and possibly great for your wallet. Everyone wins.
10. Do some soul-searching.
Take yoga classes, start journaling, watch some TED talks. This is a good time to get to know yourself better, when you’re not distracted by the chaos of everyday life. It’s a lot easier to focus on mindfulness when you’re not busy answering emails or thinking about work projects. Once you focus on yourself, you’ll be able to better focus on others. Maybe you’ll find that you want to dedicate more time to volunteering this spring, or maybe you’ve realized you want to make a change in your career. Self-discovery sounds all New Agey, but it’s a real thing and it’s just as important as your “real” work.